What I’m getting at is this: it seems that very outward signs of Christianity such as not drinking, being a worship major, wearing modest closes, and of course abstinence, have been elevated to such a level as to neglect other perhaps more or equally important areas.What about the idea of being understanding toward your wife (1 Peter 3:7).So when Steve asked her out, her attraction to him – and the idea that he could be her husband someday – far outweighed the serious effect of his beliefs on her faith journey.
And, in a way, it may even be logical with all the confusion and droughts we’ve talked about.Some Christian guys take it too far and become dominant and controlling.This is a much an insecurity and the inability to make decisions.Maybe she has looser standards for sexual activity than Christian women. I mean, if you’re getting no results in your search, it seems sensible to drop the one stipulation that’s narrowing your potential pool, right?This rationalization is exacerbated by lots of easy excuses that remind me of the secular dating book "He’s Just Not That Into You." The book features letters from women in awful dating relationships using various excuses to explain that their misbehaving boyfriends really do care for them. And one by one, the authors shoot down the letters, explaining, “Nope, he’s just not that into you.” When it comes to dating non-Christians, we also often tell ourselves, “But this is different!